Sometimes, girls must learn to let go of the thought that only guys can initiate the move. Even we girls can actually let our heart out and bluntly tell a guy how much we like him. Most girls just resort to showing their interest in a guy and giving him some speck of hints. However, sometimes even the most obvious hints can easily be overlooked by most guys, especially those rather insensitive ones. If this is the case, you’re just probably left with two options: keep it a secret forever and wait for him to initiate or gather all your courage and be brave enough to tell him upfront.
I know this isn’t going to be the easiest thing to do. In fact, it’s probably the hardest. But trust me, as long as you do it right, it’s not going to be as bad as you think. You can actually just say a straight “I like you” to the guy you adore. However, there are actually other indirect yet subtle ways to tell him so. Saying “I like you” right away can be risky since you can’t be 100% sure that he’d like you back. And the thought of being rejected and being trapped in a one-sided love is indeed scary. So to help you get rid of that risk, the list below shows some good lines you can use to open the topic and find out if your feelings have a good chance to be reciprocated. If the result is affirmative, that’s the time you can let it out and express everything you’ve always wanted to express.
Note: The list below is only recommended if your crush doesn’t have a girlfriend yet, and if he’s already your close friend or acquaintance.
Here we go:
1. Whoever you like is surely the luckiest.
In the middle of your random conversation with your crush, there will always be a point when it’s relevant and best to insert this phrase. If he has done something good, like winning a competition, acing an exam, or simply cracking a hilarious joke, you can already bring this phrase to the scene. And if he responds something like “Whoever you like is the luckiest, too”, then you might just be close to the jackpot. Depending on how your conversation expands and deepens, this can probably give you the opportunity to let your feelings out. If he’ll be the one to confess first, then that itself is the jackpot.
2. There’s this someone I like. Do you think he can like me back?
Fabricating a third person is a clever way of knowing your crush’s thoughts. By asking him this question, he will most likely tell you why that someone should like you back. He will most probably enumerate all the good qualities you have. And if he reaches the point when he’ll say “If I were him, I would be the happiest”, then it’s time to jump for joy. If he ends up confessing, then get ready because you’re just about to have your ultimate crush as your new boyfriend.
3. You know what, I sometimes get to imagine you and I being together, and it’s crazy.
Depending on the kind of man your crush is, he can respond in different ways. If he says something the same and confesses that he’s also thought about it, you two can proceed with the topic more excitingly. Either of you will probably ask each other why the thought has occurred to you. And eventually, either of you might just ask each other if the thought is a probability or not. If his response to this is favorable, then that’s a signal your relationship is about to level up.
4. Why are you still single?
If you ask your now-friend and hopefully-future-boyfriend why he’s still single, he’ll surely give you the reasons why he decided to stay out of any relationship. It could be because he’s focusing on his studies or career, or it could be because he’s waiting for someone. If he mentions some other girl’s name, then that is a sign for you to step back. But if he mentions the description of someone he’s waiting for and it apparently matches you, then you can raise your hopes up a bit. I say ‘a bit’ because just like the famous accounting principle “Never assume unless otherwise stated”. You can probe further as to whom he’s referring to and if he says it’s you, then victory has just been yours.
5. What are the things you like about a girl?
You probably have asked this to him already and things just happened to be far from progressing. But if you still haven’t tried asking him this directly, then I must say it’s worth a shot. Some guys might readily take this as a hint from you, but some guys could just think about it as a casual question to keep the conversation going. Whatever the case, his response to this will surely give you the idea on what kind of girls he likes and what qualities he’s attracted to. If his description is exactly you, he’s probably also giving you a hint that he likes you too. If his description is far from who you are, then you don’t have to give up right away. He’s just talking about his “ideal” girl. And in the real world, most happy couples are not really each other's ideal partners in the first place. No matter what, it’s still good if you know what he likes. You don’t have to change who you are and pretend to be someone you’re not just to match his “ideal girl”. Knowing his type would just help you assess your chance and perhaps upgrade yourself a bit without changing your original essence.
6. It’s not hard to like you.
You might think that this phrase is just totally the same with saying a straightforward “I like you”. However, although they’re closely related, their impact is not the same. Saying “I like you” with conviction will either make him accept or decline it. And what we’re trying to achieve here is to erase the state of being bluntly rejected. Also, studies show that the more a guy knows that you like him, the more you get unattractive to him. Telling someone that he’s not hard to like doesn’t necessarily mean you like him. However, it could simply mean that he is likeable and anybody can easily get along with him. Like the rest of the phrases above, the purpose of saying this is to trigger a relevant response from him. Again, if he says the same thing and tells you “you’re not hard to like either”, then that is sort of your objective. From there, you can both progress to a closer bond and hopefully an intimate one sooner or later.
The tips above are just simple words that can give you the opportunity to know his feelings and, if fate allows it, to express yours too. The conversation simulations above may sound theoretical, but they’re surely not far from what could happen in reality. Telling someone you like him is hard, but it’s certainly not impossible. Hopefully, the tips above can guide you on how to go on with it. If the result is good, then the next goal is to make the relationship last. If the outcome ends up sour, then you still have to be thankful. Remember: If you lose a person, that means someone better is yet to come. Whatever happens, know that you are valuable, and you deserve someone who can take care of you like a real treasure.